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Ex-Languages: reasons for divorce? | ||
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| artemidora Super Polyglot Newbie Spain Joined 4996 days ago 27 posts - 39 votes Speaks: Spanish*, French, English, German, Italian, Portuguese, Norwegian, Latin, Ancient Greek, Catalan, Hindi, Russian, Swedish, Danish Studies: Greek, Japanese, Welsh, Serbo-Croatian, Swahili, Persian, Ancient Egyptian, Romansh, Tatar, Sanskrit, Lithuanian, Kazakh, Basque, Hawaiian, Arabic (classical), Finnish, Czech, Turkish, Indonesian | Message 65 of 75 24 March 2011 at 2:18am | IP Logged | |||||
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Yes, i have divorced quite a number of languages:
Hebrew: i studied it together with greek, latin, arabic and ancient egyptian at university, and the glory of these four classicals left the poor hebrew so pale... i got bored really soon, put the books aside and never studied it again. Hungarian: it doesn't charm or enchant or play magic as the other languages do, as finnish or turkish do. i don't know why, i cannot feel anything for it after having studied it with an Assimil book. Romanian: the strangest thing happened. this is a beautiful language for which I feel attraction, but when i study it, it has the strange power to erase all the other romance languages from my head! i even stopped thinking in my native Spanish and started thinking in romanian! such a terrible feeling! so i had to stop studying it for my own mental and linguistic health! Yoruba: i thought it was wonderful but the more i studied it, the more it felt unpleasant, and i just had to stop learning it. Fang: i was so enthralled having received a Fang manual as a present, but the manual was terrible, i could not bear it. who knows if with a different book i would ever go back to learn Fang Bulgarian: i love it, i love the old book i have to learn it, but i love so much the other slavic languages, that the poor bulgarian waits at the bottom, out of view, under the other russian, czech, serbo-croatian and polish grammars. 4 persons have voted this message useful | ||||||
| ilperugino Pentaglot Groupie Portugal Joined 5174 days ago 56 posts - 75 votes  Speaks: Portuguese*, English, Italian, Spanish, French Studies: Mandarin | Message 66 of 75 24 March 2011 at 10:19am | IP Logged | |||||
Artemidora - that in fact is a awful good reason to divorce. (hihihi) 1 person has voted this message useful | ||||||
| clumsy Octoglot Senior Member Poland lang-8.com/6715Registered users can see my Skype Name Joined 5178 days ago 1116 posts - 1367 votes Speaks: Polish*, English, Japanese, Korean, French, Mandarin, Italian, Vietnamese Studies: Spanish, Arabic (Written), Swedish Studies: Danish, Dari, Kirundi | Message 67 of 75 27 March 2011 at 4:35pm | IP Logged | |||||
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I've divorced 'em, but they keep coming to my home, bro'.
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| ilperugino Pentaglot Groupie Portugal Joined 5174 days ago 56 posts - 75 votes Speaks: Portuguese*, English, Italian, Spanish, French Studies: Mandarin | Message 68 of 75 27 March 2011 at 11:48pm | IP Logged | |||||
Maybe you´re better off this way (unatached) or else should you find a fierce divorce attourney to put an end to all that harrasment. 1 person has voted this message useful | ||||||
| happycheeks Groupie United Kingdom Joined 4707 days ago 57 posts - 59 votes Speaks: English* Studies: Russian | Message 69 of 75 09 November 2012 at 5:29pm | IP Logged | |||||
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I broke up with french. It sounds lovely but it's not the language for me. I learnt this
language for a person who is a french native speaker. I never really did enjoy learning french. At times, I even forced myself to learn it. I ask myself, why should I keep learning french if I have no motivation to learn it?. But with languages such as japanese and korean, I have so much motivation. One of the reasons were the people.... The learners of french and some native speakers were rude to me. Some of the learners of french were telling me how to live my life and they had a problem with my job, since my job is a "crappy, low classed job". But to be honest, I love my job. ^_^ One native speaker told me I can't speak french and another was rude to me telling me I can't laugh. >.< I do not want to keep getting friend requests from learners of french degrading me. Edited by happycheeks on 09 November 2012 at 5:36pm 2 persons have voted this message useful | ||||||
| iguanamon Pentaglot Senior Member Virgin Islands Speaks: Ladino Joined 5262 days ago 2241 posts - 6731 votes Speaks: English*, Spanish, Portuguese, Haitian Creole, Creole (French) | Message 70 of 75 09 November 2012 at 5:52pm | IP Logged | |||||
Sorry to hear about your negative experiences with learning French. There's no shame in admitting that you don't want to do something anymore. What would be a shame would be continuing to do something you don't want to do. This is a perfect example of why motivation is the most important ingredient in language learning. Motivation is more important than anki, Assimil, Pimsleur, or Teach Yourself. You can have the most amazingly effective tools and resources at your disposal, but without motivation, you're fighting a losing battle. It is so very important that motivation to learn a language should come from within and not from outside. 2 persons have voted this message useful | ||||||
| happycheeks Groupie United Kingdom Joined 4707 days ago 57 posts - 59 votes Speaks: English* Studies: Russian | Message 71 of 75 09 November 2012 at 6:17pm | IP Logged | |||||
I agree. When I have so much motivation, I want to learn more. There's no point of learning a language that I have no interest in, I wouldn't learn anyway and I would finally tell myself, I've had enough. 1 person has voted this message useful | ||||||
| jeronz Diglot Newbie New Zealand Joined 4858 days ago 37 posts - 79 votes Speaks: English*, Spanish Studies: French, Yiddish, Latin, German, Italian | Message 72 of 75 12 November 2012 at 10:53pm | IP Logged | |||||
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I had an arranged marriage with Hebrew during my formative years, and I was never very
happy with the situation. I tried as hard as I could to ignore her during my time with her and as soon as I was old enough to be more assertive I left her by the wayside. During the years we were forced to be together I learned nothing and she became increasing spiteful.´ Then French and I saw each other during school for about a year, but honestly I realise now that I was only seeing her so that it wasn´t Hebrew. I also had a short fling with Akfrikaans but one day I woke up and realized that her voice irritated me and that was that. Then my first true love came into my life: Japanese. She was my everything, I was obsessed, I was certain I had found my soul mate. I moved in with her and we lived together for about 5 years. I am grateful for the time we had together, she opened my eyes to the beauty of language. One of my best friends in school was Mandarin, we hung out for one year - I hung out with her because I thought she would be useful - but we were never attracted to each other like Japanese and I. Her culture, her cooking and her voice never really interested me. As friends do, we drifted apart. Then came medical school, a language vacuum. I was forced to give my time to other tasks and Japanese got jealous. First we moved out, but that was a slippery slope and before I knew it we weren't even seeing each other anymore. Five years passed , void of any new romance, and then while I was abroad in Canada I discovered Spanish. I was struck. She was the most beautiful language I had ever heard (In New Zealand where I live I have had little to no exposure to Spanish) My second true love and we are still living together and I cannot see myself apart from her. A year and a half later Spanish and I are passed the lovey-dovey phase (although we are still committed) and she has agreed to have an open relationship. And so I have revisited French, we hardly remember each other - it was a different epoch - and we've only been seeing each other for about six weeks but I am really enjoying my time with her, she has her own type of elegance that is distinct from and compliments Spanish. I've also been wondering if Japanese and I can be friends, we talked again the other day and we will see if we can work it out. Edited by jeronz on 12 November 2012 at 10:55pm 6 persons have voted this message useful |
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