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| yall Diglot Newbie Italy Joined 5962 days ago 22 posts - 31 votes Speaks: English*, Italian Studies: Latin, French | Message 9 of 43 03 April 2011 at 5:38pm | IP Logged | |||||
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In general, single people would have more free time to devote to any number of things. If the real point of the question was more like "Should I remain single in order to devote more time to language learning?", then it might be time to reexamine priorities.
On the other hand, if you have a girlfriend and you'd rather be reviewing vocabulary than spending time with her, then you're probably not right for each other. Edited by yall on 03 April 2011 at 10:18pm 2 persons have voted this message useful | ||||||
| aabram Pentaglot Senior Member Estonia Joined 5534 days ago 138 posts - 263 votes  Speaks: Estonian*, English, Spanish, Russian, Finnish Studies: Mandarin, French | Message 10 of 43 03 April 2011 at 6:36pm | IP Logged | |||||
On the other-other hand, if your girlfriend doesn't realise that she still needs to give you time to spend on your hobbies (as you should give her), then it's not going to work in the long run anyway. It's not like one has to drop all hobbies upon entering the relationship. 4 persons have voted this message useful | ||||||
| Splog Diglot Senior Member Czech Republic anthonylauder.c Joined 5670 days ago 1062 posts - 3263 votes Speaks: English*, Czech Studies: Mandarin | Message 11 of 43 03 April 2011 at 6:41pm | IP Logged | |||||
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My wife works full time, plus does almost all the house work. The result is that I have
more free time as a married man than I ever had when I was single. So, it depends very much on the type of relationship you have, and whether this increases or decreases demands on your time and energy. 2 persons have voted this message useful | ||||||
| Kisfroccs Bilingual Pentaglot Senior Member Switzerland Joined 5410 days ago 388 posts - 549 votes Speaks: French*, German*, EnglishC1, Swiss-German, Hungarian Studies: Italian, Serbo-Croatian | Message 12 of 43 03 April 2011 at 7:16pm | IP Logged | |||||
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My boyfriend speaks Hungarian and German, I speak German, French and a little bit Hungarian. Since we met, we only spoke in German, as it was our language reference.
I went to learn Hungarian and when I was with his family, he truly motivated his family to speak German with me (so they could learn), to translate the words I didn't understood and made me translate an article from Hungarian to German. He also started to learn French, but could only say a few things. I noted that I was fairly impatient when we sat down to repeat a lesson he had learnt and where he wanted the proper pronunciation, and he said to me that I looked annoyed, when in fact I was impatient. I love languages but on this occasion I felt really selfish and egoist because he spent nearly the double amount of time with me learning Hungarian than me, and was really patient. Did you had a similar experience ? Being not patient with errors someone makes ? Being impatient to have a real conversation ? And I know it's because I know that in French, I will how to express my feelings - and not in German... 2 persons have voted this message useful | ||||||
 Fasulye Heptaglot Winner TAC 2012 Moderator Germany fasulyespolyglotblog Joined 5848 days ago 5460 posts - 6006 votes 1 sounds Speaks: German*, DutchC1, EnglishB2, French, Italian, Spanish, Esperanto Studies: Latin, Danish, Norwegian, Turkish Personal Language Map | Message 13 of 43 03 April 2011 at 7:41pm | IP Logged | |||||
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The advantage of being a single for language learning is that you can develop your own language learning projects and you don't need to find a compromise with a partner. You can make your own time schedule and decide when to study spontanously. It's the amount of freedom which is the privilege for singles.
A relationship can only be of an advantage for language learning, if the partner supports one's language learning project of has a positive attitude towards language learning even if he / she is not engaged in the same hobby. I don't think it's easy for language geeks / nerds / polyglots to find partners. It's because their hobby plays a significant role in their life and potential partners are normally not willing to adapt to it. Fasulye Edited by Fasulye on 04 April 2011 at 5:57am 1 person has voted this message useful | ||||||
| nuriayasmin Senior Member Germany Joined 5244 days ago 155 posts - 210 votes | Message 14 of 43 03 April 2011 at 8:09pm | IP Logged | |||||
Hard to believe that in 2011 a man still dares to write something like that .... 11 persons have voted this message useful | ||||||
| g-bod Diglot Senior Member United KingdomRegistered users can see my Skype Name Joined 5983 days ago 1485 posts - 2002 votes Speaks: English*, Japanese Studies: French, German | Message 15 of 43 03 April 2011 at 8:17pm | IP Logged | |||||
Well my husband works full time and also does most of the housework! I suppose if you are in the first flush of a relationship you might not find much time for languages, or anything else that you are supposed to be doing. But after a year or so, that wears off and you find time for hobbies again.. 3 persons have voted this message useful | ||||||
| Jinx Triglot Senior Member Germany reverbnation.co Joined 5694 days ago 1085 posts - 1879 votes Speaks: English*, German, French Studies: Catalan, Dutch, Esperanto, Croatian, Serbian, Norwegian, Mandarin, Italian, Spanish, Yiddish | Message 16 of 43 03 April 2011 at 10:43pm | IP Logged | |||||
What if it just happens to be the truth? Should he lie? Or are you implying that it's not right that he lets his wife work so hard? In that case, despite being a feminist myself, I would suggest that you perhaps not turn the conversation in this direction. We don't know the particular circumstances of Splog's life. Perhaps there is a perfectly good reason that his wife works so hard while he has lots of free time. Maybe she likes it that way. I don't know, and I believe it's none of our business. ;) 11 persons have voted this message useful |
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