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| Siberiano Tetraglot Senior Member Russian Federation one-giant-leap.Registered users can see my Skype Name Joined 6498 days ago 465 posts - 696 votes  Speaks: Russian*, English, ItalianC1, Spanish Studies: Portuguese, Serbian | Message 81 of 161 20 December 2009 at 4:55pm | IP Logged | ||
Wow, amazing! I've read the following posts and think it's quite a common problem for many young people. Parents, when dealing with children (of whatever age, up to 30 and older) and with each other, often take the "I know how to do it right, and you don't" attitude. If things are that bad as you describe, the best option is to start living on your own asap. This way you not only eradicate the issue and quite probably will tune the relationships with your parents to a better wave, but also will mature earlier. 1 person has voted this message useful | |||
| datsunking1 Diglot Senior Member United States Joined 5590 days ago 1014 posts - 1533 votes Speaks: English*, Spanish Studies: German, Russian, Dutch, French | Message 82 of 161 20 December 2009 at 9:51pm | IP Logged | ||
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My dad actually doesn't care, I told him I bought a "German Made Simple" book from barnes and noble (it was the 1965 edition too!!) :D
He said, That's cool, it's your money and your time invested. My mom is the only one that doesn't support anything I do lol 1 person has voted this message useful | |||
| FrenchSilkPie Senior Member United States Joined 6622 days ago 125 posts - 130 votes Speaks: English* Studies: French | Message 83 of 161 20 December 2009 at 11:09pm | IP Logged | ||
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Personally, I think polygots and monolinguals can both be snobby and entitled.
That really sucks about your parents, but there comes a time when you just have to put on your big boy/big girl pants and ignore what other people say. Good luck with your studying, just keep studying and prove them wrong! 4 persons have voted this message useful | |||
| annette Senior Member United States Joined 5511 days ago 164 posts - 192 votes Speaks: English* | Message 84 of 161 20 December 2009 at 11:44pm | IP Logged | ||
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Just joining the chorus of "sorry about your parents but keep your head up!"
Personally, my mom was fine with my language study but my dad wasn't. My father LOVES languages and linguistics and is actually a polyglot, working with multiple languages every day, but somehow he was not supportive at all of my wanting to learn languages X, Y, and Z. I think my personal experience ties back to something someone said earlier in the thread about how parents often want the best for their child but also harbor a secret (or not-so-secret!) insecurity that their child will eventually eclipse them. Obviously I can't speak for your parents, but it's something to think about. Depending on the atmosphere of your community and social network, another factor may be the drive for success, which another poster spoke to more clearly, and particularly success in college admissions. I'm sure almost all of us Americans know "that kid" who ONLY does things if they will make his college applications look good. I went to a competitive high school and so was surrounded with this sort of culture - not every student was so single-minded but there was definitely this attitude of, "If it can't go on your transcript, why are you doing it?" People would only join extracurriculars that they knew they could assume leadership position in or spin huge stories out of (lots of community service that only got done until the day after acceptance), and friends were constantly saying to me, "I know you like languages, and your transcript in terms of languages is really good, but why are you self-studying such and such a language that you can't put on your transcript or prove that you've been successful in?" Obviously this kind of attitude is going to exist all your life, but I find that people have been a lot calmer about this sort of thing since our various acceptances to college. Suddenly hobbies are all right again. It may be temporary but it is a relief! Anyway, hang in there and keep on striving to do what you like and/or what you want. 1 person has voted this message useful | |||
| Halie Diglot Groupie United States Joined 6115 days ago 80 posts - 106 votes Speaks: English*, French | Message 85 of 161 21 December 2009 at 9:14am | IP Logged | ||
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My parents are pretty proud of me in my language endeavors (although they wouldn't let me apply to colleges in other countries...), it's OTHER people who judge me. I took AP French last year and the exam and a few days before the exam when I told people I was going to take it, I got responses like:
(Wary look on face) "...good luck..." "You're going to fail." "Are you serious?" "Doesn't everyone fail that?" Thanks for boosting my confidence, everyone. Anyways, I got a four and have never been more proud in my life. :) And everyone was shocked when they found out how well I did. So there is my little story. Study hard and prove the haters wrong. LOL. 1 person has voted this message useful | |||
| datsunking1 Diglot Senior Member United States Joined 5590 days ago 1014 posts - 1533 votes Speaks: English*, Spanish Studies: German, Russian, Dutch, French | Message 86 of 161 21 December 2009 at 4:29pm | IP Logged | ||
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congrats Hallie :D I don't think I'll be taking the AP Spanish Exam, I really have no point to take it lol I should do alright though I'm not sure yet. :)
That's a very good score, you should be proud :) 1 person has voted this message useful | |||
| Georgiana Newbie United States Joined 5500 days ago 2 posts - 10 votes Speaks: English* Studies: Japanese, Korean | Message 87 of 161 21 December 2009 at 6:12pm | IP Logged | ||
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I'm sorry about your situation. Hopefully she'll understand support you one day.
And as a side note, you and I are alike and yet totally opposite, but I have also thought of having a school where kids and adults can go to learn languages... 1 person has voted this message useful | |||
| datsunking1 Diglot Senior Member United States Joined 5590 days ago 1014 posts - 1533 votes Speaks: English*, Spanish Studies: German, Russian, Dutch, French | Message 88 of 161 21 December 2009 at 11:00pm | IP Logged | ||
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how are we different :P
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