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kujichagulia Senior Member Japan Joined 4845 days ago 1031 posts - 1571 votes Speaks: English* Studies: Japanese, Portuguese
| Message 9 of 76 18 July 2012 at 8:42am | IP Logged |
@Brun Ugle - Thank you for the comments. They are very encouraging. I'm glad someone else went through something similar. I'm not alone!!! :)
I'm sure that my dislike of the Japanese language is just a phase I'm going through now, probably something other intermediate learners have gone through. I'm sure that once I get over this current hump, make some progress, and move on to reading novels and other things, I'll fall in love with the language all over again.
Thanks for the suggestions about self-talk. I think that, instead of aiming for complete perfection, I should learn how to say things like "I mean..." (いや失礼 pops into my mind) and use that in my self-talk.
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| kujichagulia Senior Member Japan Joined 4845 days ago 1031 posts - 1571 votes Speaks: English* Studies: Japanese, Portuguese
| Message 10 of 76 18 July 2012 at 8:55am | IP Logged |
ZombieKing wrote:
I'm wondering if you could give us an assessment of your skills in Japanese. How good are your reading, writing, listening and speaking skills? I'm assuming you want to focus mostly on conversation? Would you say speaking or listening is more difficult for you?
If you need to improve your listening comprehension, perhaps some L & R could work for you? |
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Overall, I would rate myself a B1 at best, and A2 at worst. For my level, reading and writing are my strengths. I can't read a newspaper, but children's books are no problem, aside from unknown vocabulary. I know all the readings for, and can write from memory, roughly 300 kanji, and I can recognize more than that.
My listening skills are not as good as my reading and writing skills, although much better than my speaking skills. It's a bit tough to gauge my listening level, because I work with a lot of hyojungo materials, but the Japanese I hear in everyday life is Kansai-ben. Perhaps if I went to Tokyo, I could judge my listening a lot better. I can understand 30-40% of the dramas I see on TV.
Speaking is the big problem. I'm completely slow when trying to form sentences. I recently switched to using sentences in Mnemosyne to help with this. Oh, vocabulary is another big problem as well. My grammar is solidly intermediate, but my vocabulary level is much lower than that, probably A2.
ZombieKing wrote:
To help with igniting some sort of passion for Japanese, and to help keep you motivated, perhaps you can set aside some time in the day to do some very light Japanese studying? Just for fun? You'll learn a little bit, but that's not the point. The point is to reward yourself and give yourself a reason to keep learning. |
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That's a good idea. I'm hoping the reader I ordered will help provide that. I'm also looking for some manga with furigana, and without big robots and girls with purple hair, big eyes and miniscule mouths.
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On the topic of your self talk stories, perhaps you can challenge yourself to present one short story you composed yourself to your wife every week? |
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Another great idea. I'm sure she could tolerate 5 minutes of my Japanese every now and then. :)
As for intensive immersion, it sounds nice, but unfortunately I am unable to do it in the foreseeable future. But I think a little studying a day, with speaking practice and consistency, will lead to progress.
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| patrickwilken Senior Member Germany radiant-flux.net Joined 4531 days ago 1546 posts - 3200 votes Studies: German
| Message 11 of 76 18 July 2012 at 10:09am | IP Logged |
I can certainly see some similarities between your situation and my own. I lived on and off in Germany for a few years, and have been married to a German for the last seven years, but my German never passed a pretty basic level, probably for similar reasons to yourself.
Over the last couple of months I have finally started working on it more intensively and have been making good progress. Of course, German is a lot easier to learn for an English speaker than Japanese, but you sound like you have a better grasp of the language than me.
One thing I have realized is that I can do most/all the basic learning here in London; I think it's a bit of a myth that having a partner fluent in your target language, or living within the country helps that much.
I wrote this blog post yesterday for a friend who is trying to learn German, perhaps it will help:
http://diary.radiant-flux.net/2012/07/deutsch-lernen/
Of course, what works for me won't necessarily be good for you; and I am sure there are lots here who would disagree with much of what I say. :)
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emk Diglot Moderator United States Joined 5530 days ago 2615 posts - 8806 votes Speaks: English*, FrenchB2 Studies: Spanish, Ancient Egyptian Personal Language Map
| Message 12 of 76 18 July 2012 at 12:15pm | IP Logged |
kujichagulia wrote:
Yes, my wife is a native Japanese speaker, but she is too impatient
to deal with my broken Japanese. Our Japanese conversations often end with her
laughing and saying, "Just speak English, OK?" |
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Yeah, it's hard to change the default language of a relationship.
My wife is a native French speaker. We live in the US, and we spoke English at home for
10 years. My French was maybe A2+ with some B1 skills.
One day in February, we decided to switch. The first several weeks were pretty
agonizing for both of us—speaking a new language is like starting a new sport. You need
to build physical skills, mental skills and endurance. And you sacrifice a lot of your
ability to communicate.
But after several weeks, things got a lot better. My French is now semi-fluent—
sometimes I can produce it completely spontaneously, other times I need to think for a
few seconds first. And after 4 months and some serious study, I passed a B2 exam. So I
made more progress in 4 months than in the preceding 3 years. I'm now a semi-functional
adult in French, though I still have to make an effort.
Some advice for anybody who wants to start speaking their spouse's language at home,
either full-time or part-time:
1) Explain to your spouse that you feel kinda lousy about your L2 skills, and you feel
embarassed and frustrated that you can't speak the local language / language of their
family / whatever.
2) Ask them to set aside some time when you can speak your L2 together.
3) Acknowledge that this is a huge favor—your spouse will need to override a
little switch in their head that controls the default language of the relationship, and
this is really hard for most people. And then they will need to put up with broken L2,
a spouse who sounds like a toddler, and occasionally painful miscommunication.
I think (3) here is really important. You're asking for a huge favor, for very serious
reasons that you laid out in (1). This is not something that your spouse
"should" do, but a very real and weighty sacrifice, and a major gift to you.
Anyway, I can't tell you what's right for you (or your wife). But maybe there's a place
for some Japanese in your relationship, either now or in the long run.
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| patrickwilken Senior Member Germany radiant-flux.net Joined 4531 days ago 1546 posts - 3200 votes Studies: German
| Message 13 of 76 18 July 2012 at 12:58pm | IP Logged |
emk wrote:
kujichagulia wrote:
Yes, my wife is a native Japanese speaker, but she is too impatient
to deal with my broken Japanese. Our Japanese conversations often end with her
laughing and saying, "Just speak English, OK?" |
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3) Acknowledge that this is a huge favor—your spouse will need to override a
little switch in their head that controls the default language of the relationship, and
this is really hard for most people. And then they will need to put up with broken L2,
a spouse who sounds like a toddler, and occasionally painful miscommunication.
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I think speaking with your spouse is one path towards language fluency, and is probably very useful in the later stages of learning, but I don't think it's essential. If you lived in Japan/French speaking Quebec/Germany alone you would presumably still work towards fluency without a partner, even though some of your interactions (say at work) would still be in English.
The really big switch/breakthrough for me was to stop thinking that talking to my wife in my L2
was necessary or even that important to learning. Learning German is solely my responsibility. Stating it like that makes it sound obvious I know, but if you make it a precondition of learning that your spouse has to act as a full-time (or even part-time) language teacher, and give up on your relationship at some level for six months or a year, you are certainly making it their problem too.
As my German gets better I talk more with her, but at this point that's incidental for my learning.
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| vermillon Triglot Senior Member United Kingdom Joined 4676 days ago 602 posts - 1042 votes Speaks: French*, EnglishC2, Mandarin Studies: Japanese, German
| Message 14 of 76 18 July 2012 at 2:00pm | IP Logged |
kujichagulia wrote:
What free time do I have?
Most of my free time is on the train to and from work. That equals roughly two hours a day. At lunch time, I can squeeze in SRS reviews. After work, I cook, eat, then my wife and I go to the gym. When I get back, I have about 30 minutes for study before I go to bed at 10 PM. In short, I do my listening and writing on the train, then do some reading on the Internet at night. My only dedicated Internet time are those 30 minutes a night.
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If I may say something, it seems to me that you have more time than you think: you live in Japan, there's absolutely no way you only have 2h30 of time to spend on Japanese:when you go to the gym you can surely listen to Japanese during that time. I've listened to Chinese music, German audiobooks etc, and it really helps. I would suggest that this also applies when to your cooking time... perhaps not eating, as you may want to share that with your wife.
Perhaps you don't really want to have your ears busy during these activities, but if you really want to learn the language, somehow you'll have not only to make the most of the time you have, but also to create time! Most people who think they don't have time simply don't realize that time is everywhere and that you simply need to take it.
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| kujichagulia Senior Member Japan Joined 4845 days ago 1031 posts - 1571 votes Speaks: English* Studies: Japanese, Portuguese
| Message 15 of 76 18 July 2012 at 2:18pm | IP Logged |
First of all, thank you everyone for your wonderful input. It has been very, very encouraging and uplifting and helpful.
patrickwilken wrote:
I wrote this blog post yesterday for a friend who is trying to learn German, perhaps it will help:
http://diary.radiant-flux.net/2012/07/deutsch-lernen/
Of course, what works for me won't necessarily be good for you; and I am sure there are lots here who would disagree with much of what I say. :) |
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I love that blog post! I'm especially interested in that viewpoint of concentrating on input, not output. I started Self-Talk and a lot of diary writing only this week, precisely because I thought I needed more output. But with my vocabulary being as low as it is, I probably do need to concentrate more on input. That's probably why Self-Talk is so frustrating in the first place.
Besides, that's one thing my wife would gladly want me to do with her every night: watch all her favorite dramas with her.
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| kujichagulia Senior Member Japan Joined 4845 days ago 1031 posts - 1571 votes Speaks: English* Studies: Japanese, Portuguese
| Message 16 of 76 18 July 2012 at 2:23pm | IP Logged |
Thanks, emk and patrickwilken, for your comments. Knowing my wife, I tend to lean towards patrickwilken's thinking on this matter. My wife is a wonderful and caring person. But some people are built to deal with listening to my Japanese, and some aren't. My wife is in that latter category... at least until my Japanese is respectful. It's not that she doesn't care. She is my number one cheerleader, always encouraging me to keep at it.
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