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Iversen
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 Message 25 of 48
18 December 2010 at 9:52am | IP Logged 
Darklight1216 wrote:
On a slightly unrelated note, I heard from a friend that there is a nation (European, I think) in which it is actually against the law to speak a foreign language in public. I'm still trying to verify that, though.


I have read something about such a law project in Slovakia that primarily would silence the Hungarians in the country - but hoprefully it never was voted through, I don't know. But it has been a very widespread practice to punish school children who spoke their own language, even among themselves, and with a delay of a few generations that can have the same effect.

Edited by Iversen on 18 December 2010 at 9:54am

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 Message 26 of 48
18 December 2010 at 10:57am | IP Logged 
hrhenry wrote:
CheeseInsider wrote:

Let me just add that America has no official language and never has. So... the fact that the majority of Americans speak English doesn't mean everyone *should* because it's not even official :P

If you're referring to the US, no it's not nationally official. It is, however, the de facto standard. It's also the official language of a little over half the states.

Seems a bit silly to apply that to this discussion, though.

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My point was, America is a country in which the official language of the country is *non existent*. I said country, not state. So for Americans it is silly to say people should speak English because they're in America and it's America's "official language", well those who say that are either ignorant or outright lying.

Edited by CheeseInsider on 18 December 2010 at 10:57am

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 Message 27 of 48
18 December 2010 at 11:09am | IP Logged 
kyssäkaali wrote:
"This is America, and we speak English"

With all due respect (and tongue in cheek) I would suggest that the majority language spoken in the USA isn't quite "English" (I mean, tom-ate-toe? vayz?) - probably better to call it "American". And we won't even mention the appalling spelling...
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 Message 28 of 48
18 December 2010 at 3:04pm | IP Logged 
As happens often here it appears, this thread has gotten so far off track from the original question that I wonder how many people actually remember what it was.

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 Message 29 of 48
19 December 2010 at 2:56am | IP Logged 
Iversen wrote:
it has been a very widespread practice to punish school children who spoke their own language,
even among themselves,

I'm guilty of this. I enforced the school rule - English only hour after the daily chores. I made the non English
speakers do push-ups. To this day, ten years after I left, these villagers have a reputation of having the most
muscular arms around.
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 Message 30 of 48
19 December 2010 at 12:56pm | IP Logged 
hrhenry wrote:
As happens often here it appears, this thread has gotten so far off track from the original question that I wonder how many people actually remember what it was.


The question was whether it was rude to scold other persons for speaking a language different from yours/not understood by you in a setting where that you had plenty of other persons to speak to.

The implication is of course that this kind of mugging only can be in the interest of a fanatically monoglot majority, which could be Anglophone but also Hispanophone as in your own example with the Mexicans. It is inconceivable to me how anybody interested in linguistic diversity and language learning could possibly condone that kind of agressive monoglotist bullying.

In situations where you are in a natural group for a prolonged period it would of course be impolite for the majority ONLY to speak languages not understood by one single person (you). On the other hand, if you joined a group of persons who already were discussing in a language which you didn't understand it would be impolite to expect everybody else to switch to your language - and if they did the intruder should at least be grateful.


Edited by Iversen on 19 December 2010 at 1:10pm

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 Message 31 of 48
19 December 2010 at 5:03pm | IP Logged 
Iversen wrote:

The question was whether it was rude to scold other persons for speaking a language different from yours/not understood by you in a setting where that you had plenty of other persons to speak to.

The implication is of course that this kind of mugging only can be in the interest of a fanatically monoglot majority, which could be Anglophone but also Hispanophone as in your own example with the Mexicans. It is inconceivable to me how anybody interested in linguistic diversity and language learning could possibly condone that kind of agressive monoglotist bullying.


I don't believe the implications are anywhere near as deep as people are reaching here, though.

languagenerd09 came back to describe the actual conversation - harmless - and hasn't weighed in since. Other than that, we don't know much else about the whole situation. It was a group setting, though.

Look, I remember my time in college and being so passionate about a subject, to the point of excluding another person's feelings, usually coming off as pretty insufferable.

My anecdote was actually a really good lesson for me. It taught me to carefully consider other people around me and realize that not everyone has the same interests or priorities that I have. I honestly did not consider it would be rude until someone specifically told me it was (and I was specifically told, just as languagenerd09 was.)

Instead, we're concentrating on really silly things such as legally being able to speak another language (no one is disputing that) or that perhaps the girl was butting in (nothing he wrote really suggests that, but maybe she was. Why assume though?)

The whole thing could have been diffused by languagenerd09 simply saying "Oh, sorry. Sometimes I don't realize how passionate I am when it comes to learning languages." The girl may then have just said "Oh, OK" and gotten on with life. Perhaps she would have shown some interest, instead of feeling excluded. Who knows?


*EDIT to comment on something I noticed after the fact*

Iversen wrote:

... agressive monoglotist bullying.


Really? A little sensationalist, no?

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Edited by hrhenry on 19 December 2010 at 7:43pm

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 Message 32 of 48
19 December 2010 at 10:25pm | IP Logged 
I have been called rude before because I was speaking German to a good friend of mine. We were on the bus
having our own conversation about school in German. Someone sitting behind us rudely interrupted saying that
it's rude to speak another language in public. Neither of us were apart of any other conversations, and we weren't
speaking loudly or anything. In my opinion, it's not rude to speak another language in public, as long as all
involved in the conversation speak that language. Now, when there's only one person who doesn't speak the
language, the situation can be quite different. When I'm with German speakers (since I'm half German, my family
knows other German families), usually I have a friend along who speaks no German. This calls for the speaking of
English, since it would be rude to exclude that person from the conversation, and since everyone involved is at
least bilingual in German and English. Some people may also think that you are using this foreign language to
speak ill of them (if they hear their name said or something), which even further clarifies their assumption. I was
on a trip to my friend's beach home, to stay for about a week with his family. I called my mother whilst we were
on the beach right before the fireworks (it was the fourth of July). So I called her, and began to speak in German,
since I hadn't spoken it for about a week, and I missed speaking it (she's the Polish Jewish side of my family, but
she understands German since her stepdad spoke it with her). I said my friend's name and something having to
do with when we were coming back, and a few other things regarding what we had been doing, etc. When I hung
up my friend said to me "My mom would prefer it if you wouldn't speak German while on the beach." I was really
confused as his mom wasn't even there. Then I thought that his mother had actually said that, and perhaps she
just didn't want the "snotty beach club people" to get miffed. However thinking about it now, I think he had
assumed I had said something negative about him.
So anyways, it really depends on the situation, but lets PLEASE not turn this into a big "America has no official
language" brawl or anything like that.

Edited by ruskivyetr on 19 December 2010 at 10:28pm



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